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3 SIMPLE steps to create POWERFUL changes in your life | The Mel Robbins Podcast

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — You can change your life. Period. My mission in this episode is to remind you of who you are and help you tap into the power inside of you. I want you to see something bigger for your life this year. I want to empower you with 3 simple steps you can take to make that vision a reality. In this episode, you will learn the 3 steps I used to reinvent every aspect of my life over the past two years. I strengthened my #relationships, changed my business, improved my mental health, and heck, I even changed where I lived (after 26 years)! I will walk you, step by step, through the story and the process. I will share how I went from feeling #stuck, lost, and overwhelmed two years ago to where I am today: happier than I’ve been in a long time, making big things happen, and having a ball. If I can do it, you can do it. I’ll walk you through what I did and how I did it. By the end of the episode, you’ll not only feel motivated to improve your life, but you’ll also know the steps to take and HOW to make it happen. And I will make sure you know that you, in fact, deserve to be #happy and fulfilled. Yes, YOU. You’ll also hear an amazing and inspiring story from one woman who used these 3 steps to save her life and then, over the past year, take the actions to improve her life and become happier, more #confident, and #empowered. All of this is here to inspire and empower you to use these same simple steps to create profound change in your life, too. You’ll also learn interesting research about tapping into intrinsic motivation, temporal landmarks, and thinking bigger about your life and the future, using “The Fresh Start Effect” to unlock the confidence to kick your rear end when you need to. This episode is packed with stories, science, tools, and the #motivational fire power you deserve. I am on a mission to remind you of who you are and the power you have inside yourself to change your life. Change is possible. And you can’t convince me otherwise. YOU have the power to change your life through the actions you take every single day. YOU deserve to be happy. And in case no one tells you today, I love you and I believe in your ability to change your life. Now go get ‘em ❤️ In this episode, you’ll learn: - 3 proven steps that will change your life - How to utilize what researchers call “the Fresh Start Effect” to motivate you to take action - How to tap into powerful research on intrinsic motivation and unlock the courage and confidence you need to create a better life - What science says about “Temporal Landmarks” and how you can use them to your advantage in dreaming bigger and achieving your goals - How to tap into decades of research using the therapy modality - “Behavioral Activation Therapy” with one simple-to-understand mindset flip - The power of making a wish and getting intentional about what you truly want - How I went from feeling totally lost, sad, and stuck on my 52nd birthday to where I am now – and how you can too - What action to take right now to start the change you envision for your life Links + Resources: - 52nd Birthday Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZbRGszsk_y8 RESEARCH LINKS - The 5 Second Rule audiobook: https://www.audible.com/pd/The-5-Second-Rule-Audiobook/B06VX22V89?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWT-BK-ACX0-080693&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_080693_rh_us - Fresh Start Effect (paper): https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2204126 - Video explaining Fresh Start Effect: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uDBiSrhjbns - Intrinsic Motivation (paper): https://selfdeterminationtheory.org/SDT/documents/1971_Deci.pdf - Inspiring quotes about fresh starts (post these everywhere to remind yourself https://www.funlovingfamilies.com/quotes-about-fresh-starts/ - Suicide and Crisis Lifeline - 988 — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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Oct 6, 20221h 2mWatch on YouTube ↗

WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Mel Robbins’ Three-Step Formula For Reinventing Your Life This Year

Mel Robbins launches her podcast by sharing how she rebuilt her life after losing her TV show, income, and sense of direction at age 52. Using research on the “fresh start effect” and temporal landmarks, she explains why certain moments (birthdays, new years, breakups) naturally boost motivation for change. She then distills her own reinvention into three simple steps: make a wish (define what you want), take daily actions that align with that future self, and use others as proof that your dreams are possible. The episode blends personal story, psychology, and a concrete exercise to help listeners design the next year of their life.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Leverage the ‘fresh start effect’ to reset your life direction.

Moments like birthdays, New Year’s, new semesters, and breakups act as temporal landmarks that psychologically separate you from your past self, quiet self-judgment, and open a new ‘mental accounting period’ where big changes feel more possible.

Start by making a clear wish for the next year of your life.

Ask yourself, “What do I want the next year of my life to look like?” Even simply knowing what you no longer want (e.g., ‘I don’t want to feel this sad’) is enough to begin steering toward a new chapter.

Act like the person you want to become, not how you feel now.

Drawing on behavioral activation research, Robbins emphasizes taking small daily actions that align with your desired future self—exercise, journaling, therapy, simplifying your schedule—because action improves mood and identity, not the other way around.

Do one small thing each day that makes you feel a bit better.

When overwhelmed, focus on tiny, controllable acts—moving your body, buying yourself flowers, watching something funny, dumping your thoughts on paper—to shift your emotional state and regain clarity and optimism over time.

Use other people’s success as evidence that your goals are possible.

Instead of reacting with jealousy or scarcity, view others’ achievements (relationships, careers, homes, health) as ‘lights on the path’ proving that what you want exists and can be reverse-engineered for your own life.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

If you wanna fly, you gotta give up the shit that weighs you down.

— Mel Robbins (quoting Toni Morrison)

You don’t have to wait for your birthday or January 1st to change your life. You can turn the page on the past and start writing that new chapter today.

— Mel Robbins

Act like the person you want to become in the future no matter how you feel in the present moment.

— Mel Robbins

Other people’s success just proves that you’re worthy of what you want, and more importantly, that you’re capable of reverse engineering how they got there.

— Mel Robbins

How you’re feeling right now is a function of what you see in the future.

— Mel Robbins

The origin and purpose of The Mel Robbins PodcastMel’s personal low point at age 52 and life reinventionThe ‘fresh start effect’ and temporal landmarks in behavior changeThree-step framework for creating powerful changeBehavioral activation: acting like your future self before you feel readyMindset shift from jealousy to using others as evidence of possibilityPractical exercises: making a wish and recording a future-self voice memo

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