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Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you’re learning how to speak up for yourself and make sure that you are heard. Whether you want to be more influential and visible at work or there’s a hard #conversation that you’ve been avoiding with a family member, this episode will empower you to have a breakthrough. Most of us have never been taught the skills we need to have challenging conversations or to better advocate for our needs. The good news is that these are skills, and you are going to learn them in a very entertaining and relatable format today. You’re invited to listen in on multiple coaching sessions with listeners just like you and me who are struggling to find the words or the courage to say what needs to be said. Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 03:34 Listen to Claudia’s question about how to set boundaries in friendships. 07:42 Here are 3 reasons why we avoid difficult conversations in the first place. 16:40 Make sure you are ready with THIS before you start your conversation. 23:30 Here’s what you should assume before you have a conversation. 26:27 Never do this or you’ll put the other person on the defensive. 31:49 Here’s my favorite visual when it’s my turn to listen. 34:51 Do you have to communicate with an ex? Listen to Erica. 37:14 You’ve got to learn how to “gray rock” when dealing with difficult people. 40:31 Like it or not, you have to have this conversation for your kids’ sake. 42:12 Here is what anger and pettiness actually is. 43:03 One of two things will happen when you handle conversations like this. 44:41 How do you handle combative people in your life? Listen to Candace. 46:04 Here’s what a person with anxious attachment needs to hear from you. 48:54 Need to have a conversation with someone who’s triggered easily? #confrontation #conflict — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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Released
March 27, 2023
Duration
59m
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you’re learning how to speak up for yourself and make sure that you are heard. Whether you want to be more influential and visible at work or there’s a hard #conversation that you’ve been avoiding with a family member, this episode will empower you to have a breakthrough. Most of us have never been taught the skills we need to have challenging conversations or to better advocate for our needs. The good news is that these are skills, and you are going to learn them in a very entertaining and relatable format today. You’re invited to listen in on multiple coaching sessions with listeners just like you and me who are struggling to find the words or the courage to say what needs to be said. Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 03:34 Listen to Claudia’s question about how to set boundaries in friendships. 07:42 Here are 3 reasons why we avoid difficult conversations in the first place. 16:40 Make sure you are ready with THIS before you start your conversation. 23:30 Here’s what you should assume before you have a conversation. 26:27 Never do this or you’ll put the other person on the defensive. 31:49 Here’s my favorite visual when it’s my turn to listen. 34:51 Do you have to communicate with an ex? Listen to Erica. 37:14 You’ve got to learn how to “gray rock” when dealing with difficult people. 40:31 Like it or not, you have to have this conversation for your kids’ sake. 42:12 Here is what anger and pettiness actually is. 43:03 One of two things will happen when you handle conversations like this. 44:41 How do you handle combative people in your life? Listen to Candace. 46:04 Here’s what a person with anxious attachment needs to hear from you. 48:54 Need to have a conversation with someone who’s triggered easily? #confrontation #conflict — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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  • Mel Robbins

    host
  • Claudia

    guest
  • Claudia's friend voicemail/letter

    guest
  • Erica

    guest
  • Candace

    guest
  • Carla

    guest

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Claudia, Difficult Conversations: Why You Need Them and When to Have Them | The Mel Robbins Podcast explores mel Robbins’ Six-Step Playbook For Courageous, Boundary-Setting Conversations Mel Robbins coaches listeners through real-life scenarios to explain why difficult conversations are essential and how to have them without blowing up relationships or abandoning yourself.

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