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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Design Your Best Year Ever With Six Honest, Science-Backed Questions
- Mel Robbins shares a six-question, research-based year-end reflection ritual she has used with her family for 22 years to intentionally design a better year ahead.
- She emphasizes looking backward before planning forward: identifying lows, highs, and lessons from the past 12 months to create realistic, intrinsically motivating goals.
- Using a simple Stop / Start / Continue framework, she shows how to translate insights into concrete behavior changes instead of vague resolutions.
- Throughout, she weaves in neuroscience and psychology findings, personal examples from her own challenging and successful year, and announces a new company, Pure Genius, inspired by her struggle to meet protein and health goals.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasStart by honestly reviewing your low points to process and release them.
Research shows that when you avoid reflecting on hard experiences, the unprocessed emotions stay in your body, increase stress, and make daily life feel harder; writing them down helps your brain process and create distance.
Celebrate your high points to see what you actually want more of.
Scrolling photos and calendars reveals joyful, often small moments you may have forgotten—these highlight what genuinely lights you up and should be intentionally repeated and expanded next year.
Extract concrete lessons from the past year to guide future decisions.
Treat both highs and lows as data about what works, what doesn’t, what you value, and what you’re done tolerating, then turn those insights into new norms rather than vague reflections.
Use the Stop / Start / Continue framework to turn insight into action.
Identify one big thing you’ll stop, specific habits you’ll start, and practices you’ll continue; this simple structure converts reflection into a realistic, strategic plan for behavior change.
Quit strategically: winners regularly stop what no longer serves them.
Letting go of draining jobs, habits, relationships, and expectations creates the mental and time bandwidth needed to focus on what truly matters, instead of just piling more onto an overloaded life.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesAn amazing year, an amazing life, it doesn't happen by chance. It happens by choice.
— Mel Robbins
You can't create directions for where you wanna go unless you know where you're starting from.
— Mel Robbins
When you tell the truth about what knocked you down, what drained you, what broke your heart, you're not being dramatic. You're being self-aware.
— Mel Robbins
Winners quit all the time, because they quit the things that keep them frustrated, exhausted, distracted, so they can actually move forward.
— Mel Robbins
The highs show you what you want more of. The highs show you what you're willing to work for.
— Mel Robbins
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