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“I Can’t Stop Stalking My Ex Online. How Do I Stop?” How To Move On For Good | Mel Robbins Podcast

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Welcome to another round of your questions and my advice. I have a stack of your crazy, raw, and unbelievably direct questions, so we are going to have an unfiltered conversation about sex, competitive parents, getting over your ex, and this light and easy question... Is there a God? You are getting the coaching you need right now. The questions you asked are juicy: - Why am I still obsessed with my ex? It’s been 7 years. - My partner refuses to have sex with me. What do I do now? - The parents of my kid’s friends are so competitive; how the hell do I get out of this rate race? - Is there a God? - Imposter syndrome is killing my career. What the hell do I do? - What are the 4 new habits I can’t stop? (Because they are THAT GOOD.) - Why do I feel so trapped in my life? What do I need to know to get out? - Why can’t I fix myself after years of personal development courses? Get the tough love, “ah-ha” moments and laugh your ass off at some of the crazy stuff that goes down in this episode. You asked… and I can’t wait for you to hear my answers. Xo, Mel In this episode: 00:00 Intro 01:32 The 4 best tips I’ve learned in these first 100 podcasts. 05:03 How do you stop checking in on your ex’s social media? 08:16 What’s my astrological sign? 09:42 Here’s what I believe about faith and signs and a higher power. 16:02 What happens when we die? This is what I think. 18:15 How do you deal with difficult parents of your kids’ friends? 23:03 A husband is ready for sex months after his wife has a baby, but she’s not. 28:06 This is how I learned I was dyslexic. 29:10 Hard line advice on how to promote your business without feeling egotistical. 30:41 Why all your personal development work doesn’t feel like it’s working. 35:02 Behind the scenes and blooper clips just for you. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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Oct 23, 202336mWatch on YouTube ↗

At a glance

WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Mel Robbins Tackles Obsession, Intimacy, Faith, Parenting, and Self‑Worth

  1. Mel Robbins answers listener questions in a rapid-fire format, covering topics from anxiety and decluttering to stalking an ex online, new-parent intimacy, faith, and feeling unworthy despite heavy self‑work. She shares practical strategies she’s adopted from expert guests, emphasizes body-based approaches to mental health, and reframes social media stalking of an ex as an addiction requiring firm boundaries. Robbins also discusses cultivating intimacy after childbirth with empathy for women’s physical and emotional recovery, and redefines self-promotion as an act of service rather than ego. Throughout, she stresses aligned action—behaving like the person you want to become—as the real engine of change, not just consuming personal development content.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Treat obsessive checking of an ex’s social media as an addiction.

Mel argues that repeatedly monitoring an ex’s online life delivers a dopamine-fueled emotional high followed by pain, mirroring addictive cycles like gambling or alcohol; the solution is to remove access entirely by blocking them on all platforms and enlisting friends for accountability.

Prioritize body-based habits over rumination for better mental health.

Drawing from multiple experts, she emphasizes that effective mental health strategies start ‘from the neck down’—getting out of bed immediately, seeing morning light, walking without headphones, intermittent fasting, and nervous-system care—all of which stabilize mood more reliably than just thinking differently.

Use simple, continuous decluttering instead of organizing piles.

Dana K. White’s method changed Mel’s life: stop creating piles and containers, and instead immediately return items to their proper place; this reveals where you simply own too much and makes tidying a lifestyle, not an occasional project.

Endless ‘personal development’ consumption isn’t the same as doing the work.

Mel distinguishes between enjoying motivational content and actually changing your life; real ‘work’ means altering daily habits, confronting childhood patterns, healing the nervous system, and practicing behavioral activation—acting like the worthy person you want to be even before you feel that way.

Reframe marketing your business as an act of service, not bragging.

For people afraid of seeming egotistical, she calls it selfish to hide valuable products or services because of insecurity; marketing is how people who need you can find you, so promoting your work is part of serving others, not self-aggrandizement.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

You need to block them. You literally delete their contact information, because, Patsy, you're a fucking addict.

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When your past is in your present, you can't create a different future.

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How dare you deny people your products and services because you're too fucking insecure to market them.

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It wasn't until I started getting very focused on acting like the person you want to be that things changed.

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The world is aligned to help you when you become aligned with what is true for you.

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Lessons Mel has implemented from expert guests (anxiety, fasting, decluttering, routines)Compulsive social media stalking of an ex and how to stopMel’s views on faith, higher power, and life after deathParenting dynamics and dealing with difficult parents in kids’ friend groupsIntimacy and sex after childbirth from the partner’s and mother’s perspectiveDiscovering adult dyslexia through children’s diagnosesSelf-promotion without guilt and truly doing ‘the work’ on self‑worth

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