The Science of Gratitude & 6 Surprising Ways You’re Getting It Wrong | Mel Robbins

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Released

June 12, 2023

Duration

58m

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The Mel Robbins Podcast

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — Today we are digging into the research on #gratitude. Gratitude is a critical life skill, yet most of us are practicing it wrong. That’s right. According to the research, there are 4 essential elements of genuine gratitude. Without all 4, you can’t unlock the powerful physiological, neurological, and psychological benefits of genuine gratitude. For example, if you’re just thinking about what you’re grateful for or writing a list before you go to bed, you’re probably not getting the full impact of its power. Once you know the 4 steps, you can use genuine gratitude to actively rewire your brain! Next, we’ll discuss the “Toxic Gratitude Theory” and the 6 ways you probably use gratitude in a backhanded or manipulative way – and don’t even know it! I’m guilty of all 6 types of toxic gratitude (ouch) and now that I see it, I can stop doing it. So today, let’s learn how to unlock gratitude and all its profound power. You’ll also learn…

• The 4 neurotransmitters involved in a science-backed gratitude practice
• The important difference between being just “thankful” versus genuinely “grateful” and why it matters
• How using one specific word is critical to building up your resilience
• What to say to someone who’s going through a really tough time

And because I’m so genuinely grateful for you, I have started rolling out a fun bonus with each episode, Mel Robbins Podcast Bloopers, so listen all the way through for a good laugh! Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 08:26 Ever met someone who just makes you feel so loved and grounded? 12:12 What happens in your body when you feel more gratitude? 17:32 Here are the four important elements of genuine gratitude. 19:52 What’s the difference between being thankful vs. gratitude? 30:25 Are you using gratitude in a toxic way? Hear these six types of toxic gratitude. 31:40 Let’s unpack the #1 way we engage in toxic gratitude. 34:04 The #2 type of toxic gratitude is actually resentment in disguise. 37:28 This #3 type will keep you stuck in what’s not working for you. 39:01 We use the 4th type of toxic gratitude to escape uncomfortable emotions. 31:46 Being mentally well means giving yourself the space to feel all emotions. 43:57 Let’s unpack how you use the 5th type when you don’t know what to say. 45:23 And please don’t use this type to downplay your accomplishments. 47:19 This is one of my favorite acceptance speeches ever. 49:10 I looked up the meaning of Judah’s name and couldn’t believe what I found. 53:56 So how do you stay grounded in a chaotic environment? Listen to these tips. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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• Mel Robbins

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• Judah Frank

  guest

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Narrator, The Science of Gratitude & 6 Surprising Ways You’re Getting It Wrong | Mel Robbins explores mel Robbins Exposes Toxic Gratitude And Teaches Real Appreciation Science Mel Robbins explains the science-backed difference between surface-level thankfulness and deep, genuine gratitude that rewires your brain and strengthens relationships.

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