James Sexton, Matt McCusker & Rick Glassman - Mostly Wise #4

A divorce client described realizing her marriage was over when her husband stopped quietly refilling her favorite granola, which had made her feel “seen and loved.” The same client said she had stopped spontaneously giving her husband blowjobs, and the group frames both as examples of small, unasked-for “care gestures” that can fade as life and resentment build.

A speaker explains that divorce trials don’t use juries and are decided by a judge, so the lawyer tailors language, tone, and courtroom style to the specific judge’s preferences. He cites an old line: a good lawyer knows the law; a great lawyer knows the judge.

A speaker says he doesn’t feel guilty about winning because he believes in the legal system’s rules—burden of proof, evidence standards, and zealous advocacy within bounds—and that “facts have a way of coming out.” He compares facts to ingredients: skill matters, but you can’t make “garbage ingredients” into something great.

Rick Glassman describes struggling to maintain an erection without feeling safe/connected, recounting a period where he tried casual sex “for the data” after a breakup and developed performance anxiety. He says he now communicates explicitly about sexual expectations to reduce pressure and filter for compatibility.

The conversation highlights a perceived trend of highly specific dating requirements (including “post-economic but still hardworking”) and a blend of “yoga babble” with “business babble.” A speaker says the internet “gasses women up” with “queen/boss babe” messaging and that he sees escalating “demands” showing up in prenup negotiations.