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EPISODE INFO
- Released
- February 14, 2022
- Duration
- 2h 15m
- Channel
- Deep Dive with Ali Abdaal
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION
Subscribe to LifeNotes 👉 https://go.aliabdaal.com/lifenotes_deepdive Get 25% off Fabulous Premium by going to https://thefab.co/deepdive 📚 Check Out My New York Times Bestselling Book Feel-Good Productivity! 👉 https://go.feelgoodproductivity.com/podcast 📧 Sign up for LifeNotes - my weekly newsletter where I share actionable productivity tips, practical life advice, and high-quality insights from across the web directly to your inbox. 👉https://go.aliabdaal.com/lifenotes/podcast Logan Ury is a Behavioural Scientist turned dating coach who recently authored the bestselling book, How to Not Die Alone. Logan’s also the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge where she leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love. In our conversation we discuss all things relationships and dating including how to apply behavioural science insights to the world of dating, what makes the perfect date and how to be a better life partner. Enjoy :) Season 2 Episode 5 00:00 Intro 00:58 Getting into behavioural science 06:20 How does dating coaching work? 16:09 The three dating tendencies 24:05 The problem of focusing on the spark & the secretary problem 29:00 Is having friends enough? 31:18 Date like a scientist + objections to dating apps 38:46 Dating apps and masculinity 41:37 Dating app prompts 47:00 Generalisations about attractiveness 57:02 What makes a good relationships? 01:05:11 Myths about relationships and dating 01:07:17 Prom date vs life partner 01:19:17 The evaluative vs experiential mindset 01:24:10 Is it wrong not to know about what you like about someone? 01:26:10 The first kiss 01:30:01 What makes for a good or a bad date? 01:33:51 What are you top tips for being a better life partner? 01:42:13 Relationships are a life skill 01:45:02 What are your tips on being able to grow in a relationships together over time? 01:55:29 Instagram Q&A 🔗 CONNECT WITH LOGAN 📕 Get 'How Not To Die Alone' for 99p until 28th Feb - https://geni.us/n8xC90 🐦 Twitter - https://twitter.com/loganury 📸 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/loganury 💻 Website - https://www.loganury.com/ 🎲 Logan's Three Tendencies Quiz - https://www.loganury.com/quiz 🔗 CONNECT WITH ALI 🎥 YouTube Channel - https://youtube.com/aliabdaal 🐦 Twitter - https://twitter.com/aliabdaal 📸 Instagram - https://instagram.com/aliabdaal 💻 Website - https://aliabdaal.com 👥 Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ali-abdaal/ 📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED Predictably Irrational by Dan Ariely - https://geni.us/hqykrb Algorithms To Live By by Brian Christian and Tom Griffiths - https://geni.us/5VBbt Nonviolent Communication: A Language Of Life by Marshall B. Rosenberg - https://geni.us/44nc9qi She Comes First by Ian Kerner - https://geni.us/Bn0GaCO Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski - https://geni.us/NHCwMR Mating In Captivity by Esther Perel - https://geni.us/NmzoIhT Dipsea Stories - https://www.dipseastories.com/ The Psychology Of Your Future Self by Dan Gilbert - https://bit.ly/3BcLf4d Sex At Dawn by Christopher Ryan - https://geni.us/Fbz1KGz Far From The Tree by Andrew Solomon - https://geni.us/Lnu2T E2 How To Build A Multi-Million $ Dating App | Shahzad Younas Founder & CEO of Muzmatch - https://youtu.be/sJGn-O8k9ZA 📄SHOW NOTES & TRANSCRIPT Visit the website for the transcript and highlights from the conversation - https://aliabdaal.com/podcast/ 🎙 ABOUT THE PODCAST Deep Dive is the podcast that delves into the minds of entrepreneurs, creators and other inspiring people to uncover the philosophies, strategies and tools that help us live happier, healthier and more productive lives. In each episode, Ali has conversations with guests from wide-ranging areas around the five pillars of a good life: health, wealth, love, happiness and impact - to empower you to live your best life. Want to start your own podcast? We use Transistor! https://go.aliabdaal.com/transistor 🎧 LISTEN FOR FREE Apple Podcasts - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast... Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/7gZkflC... RSS - https://feeds.transistor.fm/deep-dive 🙏 LEAVE A REVIEW If you enjoyed listening to the podcast, we'd love for you to leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts to help others discover the show :) https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast... 📱SPONSORED BY FABULOUS Fabulous is the #1 self-care app to help you build better habits and achieve your goals. Fabulous makes it easy for anyone to develop and stick to healthy habits thanks to science-backed daily routines; as a result, you will feel healthier, fulfilled, and more productive. Get 25% off Fabulous Premium by going to thefab.co/deepdive. 👋🏼 GET IN TOUCH You can also Tweet @AliAbdaal with any feedback, ideas or thoughts about the lessons you've learnt from the episodes and we can thank you personally for tuning in 🙏 PS: Some of the links in this description are affiliate links that I get a kickback from 😜
SPEAKERS
Ali Abdaal
hostDoctor-turned productivity YouTuber and podcaster who hosts “Deep Dive with Ali Abdaal.”
Logan Ury
guestDating and relationships expert and behavioral scientist at Hinge, author of “How to Not Die Alone.”
EPISODE SUMMARY
In this episode of Deep Dive with Ali Abdaal, featuring Ali Abdaal and Logan Ury, How to Not Die Alone - A Dating Expert's Guide explores Behavioral Scientist Logan Ury Shares Science-Backed Dating and Relationship Strategies Logan Ury explains that relationships are a series of decisions and describes three dating tendencies, with the maximizer's unrealistic expectations and the hesitator's avoidance of dating as common obstacles.
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