“Gentle” Parents Still Set Boundaries With Destini Davis

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

May 10, 2022

Duration

45m

Channel

Good Inside with Dr. Becky

Watch on YouTube

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

There’s this fear that honoring our kids’ emotions when they throw tantrums or break the rules reinforces “bad” behavior. That if we don’t use punishment… we’re just being permissive. Here’s the truth: There’s nothing “soft” about parenting with empathy. This week, parenting coach Destini Davis joins Dr. Becky for a total reframe of what it really means to be a sturdy leader. The two open up about their own parenting philosophy journeys and how they realized that building connection with our kids goes hand-in-hand with holding firm boundaries. As they answer callers’ live questions about tricky situations with their kids, they debunk outdated ideas on “shaping behavior” and share deep thoughts about what actually leads to change. Their lively conversation will give you practical strategies for setting intentional limits, tolerating your child’s frustration, embodying your authority, and—most importantly—trusting yourself in the process. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: But Does This Parenting Approach Actually Work? - https://youtu.be/WdabRhrrmUA Stop Calling Your Kid "Defiant" - https://youtu.be/DJXEYwgwNwY Why Won't My Kids Listen To Anything I Say? - https://youtu.be/Rb7FSL1y3Oo Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Dr. Becky

  host

  Clinical psychologist and parenting expert; host of the Good Inside podcast.

• Destini Davis

  guest

  Parenting educator/creator focused on gentle parenting and boundaries.

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky and Destini Davis, “Gentle” Parents Still Set Boundaries With Destini Davis explores Warm, “gentle” parenting with firm boundaries: needs, values, trust, capacity. Permissive parenting is framed less as “too much kindness” and more as difficulty tolerating a child’s big feelings—especially anger directed at the parent—after a boundary is set.

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