Good Inside with Dr. BeckyHow Childhood Perfectionism Shows Up in Motherhood | Dr. Cassidy Freitas and Dr. Becky
Episode Details
EPISODE INFO
- Released
- June 23, 2026
- Duration
- 35m
- Channel
- Good Inside with Dr. Becky
- Watch on YouTube
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION
Never Off Duty: Perfectionism and Motherhood Dr. Cassidy Freitas grew up watching her mom - a Hispanic judge who fought her way into white male spaces with no margin for error — come home carrying that same no-error version of herself. Her dad pushed straight A's as the path to financial safety. She absorbed all of it. And then she became a mom. She had a plan. A written, formatted, shared-with-her-doctor birth plan. When it fell apart in the operating room — her daughter already here, her husband saying "look at her," and Cassidy turning her face away — the drive that had gotten her through everything else had nothing to offer her. Dr. Cassidy is a therapist and the author of *Mom Needs a Moment*. In this conversation with Dr. Becky, she traces how perfectionism forms in childhood as a survival strategy, why it works right up until you have a baby, and what it actually looks like to loosen the grip without losing your edge. There's a phrase she comes back to: context is the bridge to compassion. You can't have compassion for the way perfectionism shows up in you as a mom if you don't understand where it came from. Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible:
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Dr. Cassidy Freitas
guestClinical psychologist who discusses childhood perfectionism and how it shows up in motherhood.
EPISODE SUMMARY
In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky and Dr. Cassidy Freitas, How Childhood Perfectionism Shows Up in Motherhood | Dr. Cassidy Freitas and Dr. Becky explores how childhood perfectionism drives maternal burnout—and how to soften it. Perfectionism in motherhood often traces back to childhood strategies for safety, belonging, and love rather than explicit parental demands to “be perfect.”
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