It's Okay Not To Share

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

May 6, 2022

Duration

29m

Channel

Good Inside with Dr. Becky

Watch on YouTube

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Imagine this: You’re reading a book and your friend says, “Oh I’ve been wanting to read that! Can I have it now?” You probably wouldn’t hand it over mid-chapter, but offer to share it once you’re done, right? And yet, when it comes to our kids, we worry that if they don’t share immediately… they’re not a good kid. This week, Dr. Becky offers a completely different perspective: It’s okay not to share sometimes. She listens to three families’ different sharing struggles and unpacks what’s really happening when kids feel possessive. For each situation, she models actionable strategies to manage these tricky moments, while helping your child learn how to balance their desires with those of others. Remember: We want our kids to assert their needs *and* we want them to be kind, generous people. We don’t have to choose. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: How Do I Handle Sibling Competition? - https://youtu.be/UMSFOzj_eOo How Can I Get My Kid to Stop Doing an Annoying Behavior? - https://youtu.be/OD50b3Y8Qi8 Why Won't My Kids Listen To Anything I Say? - https://youtu.be/Rb7FSL1y3Oo Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Dr. Becky

  host

  Clinical psychologist and parenting expert behind the Good Inside platform.

• Family caller 1 (unnamed)

  guest

  Parent caller (Mary from Seattle) seeking advice about a child and sharing during playdates.

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky and Family caller 1 (unnamed), It's Okay Not To Share explores Rethinking kids’ sharing: boundaries, security, practice, and shame-free coaching Dr. Becky argues that it’s healthy for kids to sometimes not share because ownership helps them practice boundaries and prioritizing their own needs.

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