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My Kids Are Out of Control, What Should I Do?

When your child's actions and words seem totally out of control, it means they *feel* out of control. In these moments, kids need our help differentiating between their behavior and their feelings: They're a good kid having a hard time, not a bad kid doing bad things. In today's episode, Dr. Becky talks with three parents about navigating tantrums at their worst. She talks through trusting yourself as your family's sturdy leader (especially when family members don't understand your approach), and walks through multiple strategies to use inside and outside of the moment. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: How Can I Get My Kid to Stop Doing an Annoying Behavior - https://youtu.be/OD50b3Y8Qi8 Parenting Is Exhausting - https://youtu.be/uH8-xQs7uH0 Why Won't My Kids Listen To Anything I Say? - https://youtu.be/Rb7FSL1y3Oo Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY

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Released
May 10, 2022
Duration
28m
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Good Inside with Dr. Becky
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

When your child's actions and words seem totally out of control, it means they *feel* out of control. In these moments, kids need our help differentiating between their behavior and their feelings: They're a good kid having a hard time, not a bad kid doing bad things. In today's episode, Dr. Becky talks with three parents about navigating tantrums at their worst. She talks through trusting yourself as your family's sturdy leader (especially when family members don't understand your approach), and walks through multiple strategies to use inside and outside of the moment. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: How Can I Get My Kid to Stop Doing an Annoying Behavior - https://youtu.be/OD50b3Y8Qi8 Parenting Is Exhausting - https://youtu.be/uH8-xQs7uH0 Why Won't My Kids Listen To Anything I Say? - https://youtu.be/Rb7FSL1y3Oo Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY

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  • Dr. Becky

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    Clinical psychologist and parenting expert; host of Good Inside.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky, My Kids Are Out of Control, What Should I Do? explores reframing tantrums: boundaries, connection, and steady leadership in chaos Dr. Becky reframes tantrums as signs of a child feeling out of control internally, not as evidence of a “bad kid,” and urges parents to respond to feelings while still holding firm limits on behavior.

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