At a glance
WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
De-shaming kids’ poop to support healthy potty habits and bodies
- Normalizing bathroom talk and staying connected during bodily functions can reduce shame and make potty learning feel safer for kids.
- Kids’ stool patterns (especially consistency on the Bristol Stool Scale) often reflect hydration, fiber intake, illness, and movement—more than “good” or “bad” behavior.
- Red flags like blood in stool should be taken seriously and shown to a parent, while most day-to-day variations (including floating stool) are often normal if short-lived.
- Poop refusal or “poop holding” after pee-potty training is commonly about comfort, privacy, positioning, pain, and control rather than defiance.
- Practical strategies—believing kids’ urges, limiting toilet time, using deep belly breaths, and reducing pressure—support easier evacuation and fewer battles.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasConnection is an antidote to poop shame.
Modeling “I have to pee/poop” and treating toileting as a normal body function helps kids internalize that poop isn’t secret, bad, or isolating—reducing embarrassment and avoidance.
Aim for comfortable, formed stool—not extremes.
They describe the Bristol Stool Scale and note a “type 4” (soft, formed, snake-like) as an ideal target; pebble/hard stools suggest constipation risk, while watery stools suggest diarrhea/illness or diet effects.
Fiber only helps when hydration is adequate.
Increasing fruits/vegetables (fiber) without enough water can backfire by bulking stool without keeping it soft; pair fiber interventions with intentional hydration, especially after active/sweaty play.
Most stool changes are fine if brief; sustained changes deserve a check-in.
Floating stool and many color variations can be normal depending on diet and transit time, but changes lasting more than ~3–4 days, or anything that worries a parent, are worth raising with a clinician.
Blood in stool is a ‘don’t ignore’ sign—and kids need explicit instructions.
Because kids may hide symptoms due to embarrassment, they recommend directly teaching: if you see blood, don’t flush—tell a parent—so red flags aren’t missed.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesI told my mother, "I don't want, I don't want to be a teacher anymore. I want to go into healthcare, and I promise I will never say that to anybody unless I actually know how they feel."
— Abby Meyers
Your poop tells us a story. Your poop tells us what we have been eating. Your poop tells us how your body is feeling. Your poop tells us if you're sick or if you need more water.
— Abby Meyers
Everybody likes to poop at home. We all just like to poop where we're comfortable.
— Abby Meyers
I've called it the fast-forward error, right? My kid's hitting and I see them in jail. My kid's not pooping, and like, it's for some reason I have an image of them at like age 30 in a diaper and we fast-forward our struggle today to the same struggle, but with our kid older in higher stakes.
— Dr. Becky
But just a reminder, everybody does it, and we're all on the same playing field. There's nothing exciting about it. Everybody does it.
— Abby Meyers
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