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Alex Cooper ON: Feeling Insecure? This Video Will CHANGE Everything! | Jay Shetty

Today, I talk to Alex Cooper. Alex is the creator, host, and executive producer of the hugely successful podcast and brand Call Her Daddy, which amasses millions of listeners per episode and frequently tops Podcast charts.

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Oct 3, 20221h 46mWatch on YouTube

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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Alex Cooper on Bullying, Boundaries, Respect, and Becoming Her Whole Self

  1. Alex Cooper describes being severely bullied as a child for her looks, finding refuge in making videos and playing soccer, and now sees that experience as the root of Call Her Daddy and her empathy.
  2. Cooper and Jay Shetty discuss holding multiple identities at once, with Shetty describing being both a monk and driven, and Cooper describing being both an athlete and a media nerd.
  3. Cooper says that as a woman she faces pushback for confidence, gets labeled the 'female Joe Rogan,' and has had to keep pushing as the show moved from sex-focused content to mental health and wider topics.
  4. Both discuss protecting their wellbeing through boundaries: Cooper quit reading Reddit and comments, limits social media, keeps honest friends, and keeps her relationship out of the public eye, while Shetty says he stopped valuing being understood.
  5. Cooper closes by describing her purpose as using her platform to empower women and encourage change, and shares one-word self-descriptions in a new segment plus Fast Five answers.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Painful experiences can become the foundation of success and empathy.

Cooper says the bullied, acne-ridden girl is who started Call Her Daddy, and that her pain fuels the empathy she brings to interviews.

You can be two seemingly opposite things at once.

Shetty says he is both mindful and ambitious, and Cooper recalls hiding her video-production passion to protect her jock image. Both argue that boxes limit growth and mental health.

Going inward builds a distinct kind of strength.

Cooper says isolation as a kid built self-reliance, and Shetty adds that this is complementary to the strength of asking others for help, and that his former isolation has become solitude.

Being understood by strangers is overrated.

Shetty says he let go of wanting to be understood, and Cooper agrees that chasing understanding from people you don't know takes effort away from those you do.

Protecting your mental health requires concrete boundaries.

Cooper stopped reading Reddit and comments after talking with her therapist, limits TikTok, and surrounds herself with friends who give honest notes rather than yes people.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

Being understood is so overrated and exhausting. Because who you're mostly trying now in the age of social media to be understood by is people you don't even know.

— Alex Cooper

Am I loud, or am I just speaking about something that maybe you don't wanna hear because you don't like change? And we need change.

— Alex Cooper

I don't just think that ugly, awkward, acne girl is who started Call Her Daddy. Because if I had not gone through that, there's no way I would've started Call Her Daddy.

— Alex Cooper

I've given myself permission to accept that I am the same and different person all at the same time.

— Jay Shetty

A lot of times the person you're with is just fulfilling something that's an insecurity of yours. If you filled that insecurity, would you still need to be with that person?

— Alex Cooper

Read the available transcript
Childhood bullying and its lasting impactConfidence and being a woman in businessHolding multiple identities at onceEvolving Call Her Daddy from sex to mental healthSocial media boundaries and online hateFriendship and not needing to be understoodKeeping a relationship private

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  • Alex Cooper

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    Podcast host and media executive best known for hosting Spotify’s Call Her Daddy.

  • Jay Shetty

    host

    Host of On Purpose and author of Think Like a Monk.

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