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SELENA GOMEZ ON: How To STOP Insecurity & TRULY LOVE YOURSELF To The Core | Jay Shetty

Today, I am talking to a good friend and celebrity, Selena Gomez. Selena bravely tells her story about her long battle with mental health and how this led to her life mission to help spread mental health awareness around the world and provide mental health services for the less privileged. I get to deeply understand her inner thoughts on topics such as dealing with pressure of being a celebrity and the gossip that comes with it, finding self healing, embracing change, being one with your inner self, and living day by day being content, kind, and full of love to share. Life isn’t a simple journey, but despite the complications, challenges, and struggles, we can always find it in our hearts to tap into our inner good and be compassionate, especially to ourselves. What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Intro 00: First meeting 00: Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me documentary 00: Sharing our darkest secrets with others 00: Befriending your own inner critic 00: Learning to be more compassionate towards yourself and others 00: Taking control of your own story 00:21:01 Choosing to combat negativity with love and kindness 00:26:04 Getting asked frustrating questions 00:27:57 No one is perfect, even celebrities 00:32:27 How do you deal with imperfections? 00:37:38 Areas in your life that made you who you are 00:40:01 Embracing change 00:44:54 Mental health awareness 00:47:23 You have to be aware of people 00:53:51 How do you deal with fears? 00:56:58 What is your intention? 00: Sometimes parents project perfection around their children 00: Pain, suffering, growth 00: Wondermind - mental fitness 00: You’ll figure it out, keep going 00: Missteps parents may have taken 00: Were you always open to therapy? 00: Producing the series 13 Reasons Why 00: Selena and Mandy on Final Five

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Nov 7, 20221h 37mWatch on YouTube ↗

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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Selena Gomez and her mother on healing, imperfection, and mental health

  1. Selena Gomez explains that releasing her documentary was part of her healing, and that she learned to treat her bipolar disorder as a friend by understanding her triggers, going to therapy, and taking medication.
  2. She describes taking control of her public narrative by answering negativity with honesty, love, and kindness, and says she wants people to see she is not perfect or fully put together.
  3. Gomez says she has grown more comfortable with change, especially through months filming in New York, and describes a trip to Africa where she met a woman named Betty and found shared pain across cultures.
  4. Her mother, Mandy, speaks about becoming a parent at 16, the guilt and grief she carried, her own experience with therapy and treatment, and why she co-founded Wondermind and supports more honest mental health stories on screen.
  5. The episode closes with a rapid-fire final five covering the best and worst mental health advice, current purpose, and the shared ideas of forgiveness and treating others as you want to be treated.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Learn about what you fear

Gomez recalls her mom giving her books about storms to ease her tornado fear, and she now applies that approach to depression by learning her triggers and what the condition means.

Make a mental health condition a friend, not an enemy

Gomez says she stopped trying to fix or erase bipolar disorder and instead accepted it, using therapy, medication, and self-knowledge, with her family and friends learning to live with it too.

Imperfection can become the best part

Gomez says mistakes in the studio or on set, like a wrong lyric that became a hook, are moments she craves, and she says there is blessing in the breaking and no perfect way to heal.

Be careful about whom you share your story with

Gomez says sharing struggles can be frightening and even dangerous with the wrong people, so she advises surrounding yourself with supportive people first.

Let yourself have the hard day

Gomez says she sometimes wakes up depressed and can't get out of bed, and she allows herself that day rather than pushing the feeling away, which she says doesn't help.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

I would rather continue to get my heart broken than to not feel at all.

— Selena Gomez

I always say that there's, there's blessing in the breaking.

— Selena Gomez

There is no perfect way to heal. There is no perfect way of dealing with something.

— Selena Gomez

I think that I just wanna be enough, and that doesn't have to be me killing myself trying to be number one at something.

— Selena Gomez

We're all loving people the way we wish we were loved, and we're all hurting people the way we wish we weren't hurt.

— Jay Shetty

Documentary My Mind & MeLiving with bipolar disorderEmbracing imperfectionResponding to negativity with loveEmbracing change and discomfortMental health across culturesMother-daughter healing and Wondermind

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