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LOVE EXPERT ON: When A Man TRULY LOVES You, He Will DO THIS! | Stephan Speaks & Jay Shetty

If you like this episode you should also check our latest talk with Stephan Speaks! Watch it here 👉 https://youtu.be/XtzbgvtsApE Today, I sit down with Stephan Labossiere to talk about breakups and relationship building. We exchange thoughts on the importance of emotional maturity and how it greatly helps couples resolve misunderstandings, the reasons most relationships are dubbed challenging and difficult, understanding what a love cycle is and how emotionally damaging it is, and healing your trauma and working on yourself first are the first steps to attracting the right partner. Stephan Labossiere a.k.a Stephan Speaks is a man on a mission, and that mission is to make relationships happier and more fulfilling. As a certified relationship coach, a speaker and author, Stephan seizes every opportunity to help both men and women overcome the challenges that hinder their relationships. Some of his most popular books are Love After Heartbreak, He's Lying Sis: Uncover the Truth Behind His Words and Actions, and The Man God Has For You: 7 Traits To Help You Determine Your Life Partner. You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:40 What are the signs that someone deeply loves you? 04:01 Both partners need to be emotionally ready to grow love 08:56 Compatibility is about two people co-existing in harmony 13:10 How do you differentiate connection and chemistry, and what stage are you in? 16:51 Is anything that is not sustainable not healthy for any relationship? 21:15 Allowing children to discover themselves and their interests helps them become more self-aware 24:16 Why are most relationships difficult and become a continuous struggle? 29:13 The love advice you’ve probably heard but shouldn’t practice 34:07 Why do you need to nurture both of your masculine and feminine energy? 43:23 This is how you test the compatibility you have with your partner 46:42 Learn about the unhealthy love cycle that often causes relationships to fail 55:14 Aim to become the best you and you start to attract the right person 58:16 Focus on the healing from everything that you’ve been through, not just from your breakup 01:05:42 Stephan on Final Five

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Mar 27, 20231h 7mWatch on YouTube ↗

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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Stephan Speaks on Real Love, Healing, and Balanced Relationships

  1. Stephan Speaks says the first sign of deep love is whether you truly love the other person, and he warns that infatuation, attachment, and choosing a partner because they love you can pass for love.
  2. He and Jay Shetty separate connection (rare, spiritual recognition), chemistry (a surface spark that can happen with many people), and compatibility (two people coexisting in harmony), and they stress asking real questions rather than protecting the fantasy.
  3. Stephan argues that most relationships are hard because of unhealed past hurts, bad advice, and fear, and he describes how balancing masculine and feminine energy and being willing to walk away from an unhealthy dynamic help relationships work.
  4. He describes an unhealthy love cycle in which a woman hurt by a first love picks a safer partner she can fix, and he says this usually fails because neither person can meet the other's needs.
  5. On breakups, he recommends asking why you were holding on, healing from everything you've been through rather than just the breakup, expressing yourself fully, and having an accountability partner, and he says to become your best self rather than focus on winning an ex back.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

True love has to flow both ways, starting with your own feelings.

Stephan says people often choose a partner because they love them so much and feel safe, but without genuine love you can never be what that person needs. He adds that the safe choice is usually the wrong choice.

Connection, chemistry, and compatibility are different things.

Stephan calls connection rare and says chemistry can happen with many people. He describes compatibility as the add-on that creates harmony, and Jay adds that it really means adaptability.

Anything unsustainable in how you present yourself is unhealthy.

Stephan says that if you hide your true self to attract someone, it will eventually come out and cause conflict. He says people should know themselves so they can present the real self from the start.

Balancing masculine and feminine energy helps partners de-escalate conflict.

Stephan says one energy is dominant and you tap into the other when needed, and when a partner is heated you meet them with the opposite energy. He also says fear of losing a partner can make men needy and less attractive.

Unhealed wounds make relationships harder and lead to poor partner choices.

Stephan says that if you haven't healed, you are 90% likely to choose the wrong person. He compares walking around unhealed to wearing broken glasses.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

I always say the same wall that's able to protect you are the same walls blocking your blessings.

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walking around unhealed is like walking around with broken glasses. You, you can't see straight, no matter how hard you try.

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I think anything that is not sustainable is unhealthy.

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I always say it's not the feminine energy that's the problem, it's who you give it to.

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we think people change, but actually they just start to understand themselves better.

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Signs of true loveConnection vs. chemistry vs. compatibilityBeing your authentic self earlyMasculine and feminine energy balanceBad relationship adviceUnhealthy love cycle and fixer-uppersHealing after a breakup

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