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‘’This is How I KNEW He Was the One!’’ - Selena Gomez & Benny Blanco EXCLUSIVE

Jay sits down with global superstar Selena Gomez and acclaimed music producer Benny Blanco where they share their love story like they never have before. Join me for the first-ever On Purpose Live Tour! Tickets and Limited VIP packages are on sale now - https://www.jayshetty.me/tour. I hope to see you there! In this interview, we discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:10 Male Friendships Can Be Challenging 03:01 First Meeting & Deep Conversations 08:48 How It All Started 16:32 Opening Up to Love Again 18:57 It All Happens for a Reason 21:08 Finding Genuine Love 27:13 Be Kind to Yourself 33:37 Don’t Let Negativity Dictate Your Life 37:55 Cultivating Relationships with Trust 48:22 This is How Emotionally Mature Relationships Work 57:08 The Proposal 01:05:29 Wedding Planning 01:06:26 Recording an Album Together 01:13:17 Future Family Plans 01:18:03 Selena and Benny on Fun Questions Episode Resources: https://www.instagram.com/selenagomez/ https://www.instagram.com/itsbennyblanco/?hl=en https://www.instagram.com/jayshetty https://www.facebook.com/jayshetty/ https://x.com/jayshetty https://www.linkedin.com/in/shettyjay/ https://www.youtube.com/@JayShettyPodcast http://jayshetty.me

Jay ShettyhostSelena Gomezguest
Mar 24, 20251h 33mWatch on YouTube ↗

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At a glance

WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco Open Up About Their Love Story

  1. Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco recount their slow, awkward path from a meeting arranged by her mother to a friendship, a first date they each saw differently, and a quick fall in love.
  2. Both say trust, steady check-in texts, listening, and not needing to win arguments are how they manage busy schedules and long distance.
  3. Selena speaks about the pressure of public judgment, especially on women, while Benny explains why he avoids comments and press entirely.
  4. They describe the proposal, the Whataburger Valentine's gift, and an album recorded at home that felt like therapy and something to show their future kids.
  5. The episode ends with a couples game that shows their closeness through answers about food, gifts, humor, and date nights.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Timing and personal growth mattered to the relationship

Both said they would not have worked out when they were younger, and Selena said she needed years alone to collect herself and stop being reactive.

Honesty made vulnerability feel safe

Selena said Benny's honesty, including about his bad days, let her believe his compliments and be open herself.

Trust is built through small, consistent gestures

Benny sends texts between events and Selena asks for check-ins, and he responds without getting defensive, which helps with long distance and busy schedules.

Maturity is not the same as perfection

Jay Shetty and the couple stressed they still disagree and need space, such as Selena asking for 25 minutes, but they handle it with respect and calm.

Winning an argument is not the goal

Benny said that guys who need to win arguments end up with a partner who resents them, so he tries to calm things down and listen instead.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

Biggest thing in the world is trust.

— Selena Gomez

When Benny looks at me, I don't think he sees anything but who I am, and that's very rare to find, but when you do know, it feels right.

— Selena Gomez

I think there's a big difference between maturity and perfection.

— Jay Shetty

I think it's cool to show your emotions. I think it's cool to make people feel good.

— Unattributed

I think we just carry a lot.

— Selena Gomez

First meeting and early misreadingsOpening up after self-protectionTrust and communication in long distanceEmotionally mature conflict resolutionSocial media negativity and judgment of womenProposal and thoughtful giftsMaking an album together and future family

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