How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life: Even if You Are Tired, Single… or Not in the Mood

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you are going to learn how to have better sex. You have an appointment with a leading sex expert, Dr. Emily Morse. I will be the first to admit that I want to have better sex, but I don’t know how to achieve it. And I’m asking all the uncomfortable questions you want to ask. This conversation is going to make you think differently about this topic and inspire you to prioritize pleasure and connection in bed, no matter your age, #relationship status, or gender. And if you are saying, “This doesn’t apply to me,” or as my friend just said, “I’m in way worse than a drought! At this point, I’m a born-again virgin." No, you’re not. And this episode is for you too, because our expert says improving your solo #sex life is the first step. Dr. Emily claims that everything you have been taught or observed about sex is WRONG. Wait. WHAT??... Dr. Emily is insightful, and this conversation is hilarious and actionable. You will learn: - The 3 unexpected ways you are killing your sex drive - How to get out of your head when you’re in bed - Why meditation and sex might be the combo you need to orgasm - You are NOT alone if you cannot orgasm from penetration. - How to tell time with your vulva (yes, it is a thing) - Masturbation without shame and secrecy - Why skipping foreplay is ruining your chance of having great sex - The 5 ways your self-awareness ignites hot and steamy sex - Let’s stop faking orgasms. Know the four steps to how you can really get there. Grab your mirrors and vibrators, and leave your inhibitions and embarrassment at the door. And according to our expert, it’s amazing foreplay to talk about sex. So why don't you and your partner listen to this together? You’ll thank me later. Xo, Mel In this episode: 00:00 Intro 05:10 Great sex starts here first. 06:07 Can you relate with these sex questions from our listeners? 09:52 The 3 elements that kill our desire to connect. 17:01 Let’s unpack our lady parts. What exactly is a vulva? 20:28 One big reason why we are all being disserviced as young adults. 24:17 I love the empowering name Dr. Emily gives for masturbation. 29:08 There are thousands more nerve endings in a clitoris than once believed! 33:24 Why are women so uncomfortable about asking for what we need? 36:21 The 3 T’s you need to start an awkward conversation with your partner. 43:03 5 Pillars for having great sex. 48:21 A technique to do on your own during sex to make you more present. 50:37 What happens in your body when you orgasm? 56:58 How can vulva owners ask for what they need sexually? 1:02:57 What to do when you’ve not had sex for a long time. 1:08:31 How is your current sex life tied to your childhood needs? 1:15:23 Why can’t I handle the intensity of pleasure? 1:16:53 How to have healthy intimacy when you’ve experienced trauma. 1:24:48 5 steps to having the best sex of your life. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Mel RobbinshostDr. Emily Morseguest

Oct 19, 20231h 30mWatch on YouTube ↗

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Released: October 19, 2023
Duration: 1h 30m
Channel: The Mel Robbins Podcast
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you are going to learn how to have better sex. You have an appointment with a leading sex expert, Dr. Emily Morse. I will be the first to admit that I want to have better sex, but I don’t know how to achieve it. And I’m asking all the uncomfortable questions you want to ask. This conversation is going to make you think differently about this topic and inspire you to prioritize pleasure and connection in bed, no matter your age, #relationship status, or gender. And if you are saying, “This doesn’t apply to me,” or as my friend just said, “I’m in way worse than a drought! At this point, I’m a born-again virgin." No, you’re not. And this episode is for you too, because our expert says improving your solo #sex life is the first step. Dr. Emily claims that everything you have been taught or observed about sex is WRONG. Wait. WHAT??... Dr. Emily is insightful, and this conversation is hilarious and actionable. You will learn:
The 3 unexpected ways you are killing your sex drive
How to get out of your head when you’re in bed
Why meditation and sex might be the combo you need to orgasm
You are NOT alone if you cannot orgasm from penetration.
How to tell time with your vulva (yes, it is a thing)
Masturbation without shame and secrecy
Why skipping foreplay is ruining your chance of having great sex
The 5 ways your self-awareness ignites hot and steamy sex
Let’s stop faking orgasms. Know the four steps to how you can really get there.
Grab your mirrors and vibrators, and leave your inhibitions and embarrassment at the door. And according to our expert, it’s amazing foreplay to talk about sex. So why don't you and your partner listen to this together? You’ll thank me later. Xo, Mel In this episode: 00:00 Intro 05:10 Great sex starts here first. 06:07 Can you relate with these sex questions from our listeners? 09:52 The 3 elements that kill our desire to connect. 17:01 Let’s unpack our lady parts. What exactly is a vulva? 20:28 One big reason why we are all being disserviced as young adults. 24:17 I love the empowering name Dr. Emily gives for masturbation. 29:08 There are thousands more nerve endings in a clitoris than once believed! 33:24 Why are women so uncomfortable about asking for what we need? 36:21 The 3 T’s you need to start an awkward conversation with your partner. 43:03 5 Pillars for having great sex. 48:21 A technique to do on your own during sex to make you more present. 50:37 What happens in your body when you orgasm? 56:58 How can vulva owners ask for what they need sexually? 1:02:57 What to do when you’ve not had sex for a long time. 1:08:31 How is your current sex life tied to your childhood needs? 1:15:23 Why can’t I handle the intensity of pleasure? 1:16:53 How to have healthy intimacy when you’ve experienced trauma. 1:24:48 5 steps to having the best sex of your life. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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Mel Robbins
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Dr. Emily Morse
guest

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Dr. Emily Morse, How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life: Even if You Are Tired, Single… or Not in the Mood explores redefining Pleasure: Why Great Sex Starts With You, Not Technique Mel Robbins and Dr. Emily Morse unpack why so many people feel disconnected from their sex lives and how to intentionally create the best sex of your life at any age or relationship status.

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