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Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, renowned researcher, bestselling author, and total badass Ritu Bhasin (@RituBhasin will help you step into your power. Her work proves that a better life begins when you stop trying to fit in and start showing up as your #authentic self. Does this sound like you? - You say yes to fit in - You stay silent and let others talk over you during meetings. - You never ask for that raise you’ve earned. - You let your partner and friends make all the decisions. - You don’t have big goals because you’re afraid to fail. Before you waste another day of your life pretending to be someone you're not, listen to this life-changing episode. You deserve better. And this episode will teach you how to make the rules and be who you want to be. Ritu and I will teach you how to claim your #confidence and live a bolder, badass life in 4 simple steps. Game ON. This is your time. Take it. Xo, Mel In this episode: 00:00 Intro 09:38 Why Ritu wanted to make an entire video about how to pronounce her name. 13:47 What it means to stand in your power. 17:02 Are you masking your true identity? 22:37 Feeling comfortable with yourself vs. hiding who you really are.. 27:41 The #1 thing Ritu did to bring more belonging and authenticity into her life. 35:34 3 steps to conquer uncomfortable situations. 38:08 The mantra that Ritu repeats to herself to stay in control. 41:58 How to make others feel like they belong, too, and why that matters. 45:59 The only thing you can control are your actions. 49:54 You have 3 versions of your "self" - here’s what they are. 52:44 We are all adults stuck in a middle school brain. 57:00 The most important version of your “self” looks like this.. 59:48 The #1 takeaway I want you to get from this conversation. #authenticity #fittingin #belonging — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

Mel RobbinshostRitu Bhasinguest
Jul 24, 20231h 2mWatch on YouTube ↗

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Released
July 24, 2023
Duration
1h 2m
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The Mel Robbins Podcast
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, renowned researcher, bestselling author, and total badass Ritu Bhasin (@RituBhasin will help you step into your power. Her work proves that a better life begins when you stop trying to fit in and start showing up as your #authentic self. Does this sound like you?

  • You say yes to fit in
  • You stay silent and let others talk over you during meetings.
  • You never ask for that raise you’ve earned.
  • You let your partner and friends make all the decisions.
  • You don’t have big goals because you’re afraid to fail.

Before you waste another day of your life pretending to be someone you're not, listen to this life-changing episode. You deserve better. And this episode will teach you how to make the rules and be who you want to be. Ritu and I will teach you how to claim your #confidence and live a bolder, badass life in 4 simple steps. Game ON. This is your time. Take it. Xo, Mel In this episode: 00:00 Intro 09:38 Why Ritu wanted to make an entire video about how to pronounce her name. 13:47 What it means to stand in your power. 17:02 Are you masking your true identity? 22:37 Feeling comfortable with yourself vs. hiding who you really are.. 27:41 The #1 thing Ritu did to bring more belonging and authenticity into her life. 35:34 3 steps to conquer uncomfortable situations. 38:08 The mantra that Ritu repeats to herself to stay in control. 41:58 How to make others feel like they belong, too, and why that matters. 45:59 The only thing you can control are your actions. 49:54 You have 3 versions of your "self" - here’s what they are. 52:44 We are all adults stuck in a middle school brain. 57:00 The most important version of your “self” looks like this.. 59:48 The #1 takeaway I want you to get from this conversation. #authenticity #fittingin #belonging — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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  • Mel Robbins

    host
  • Ritu Bhasin

    guest
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EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Ritu Bhasin, Understanding Yourself: The #1 Thing You Need To Do To Live an Authentic Life | Mel Robbins Podcast explores stop Performing, Start Belonging: Mel Robbins Unpacks Everyday Authenticity Mel Robbins interviews authenticity and belonging expert Ritu Bhasin about how to stop people-pleasing and start living as your most authentic self. They distinguish between fitting in and true belonging, emphasizing that belonging is a felt sense of safety, ease, and flow in your body, not just an intellectual idea.

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