Origin Story w/ David McIntosh JrDon’t Spend Your Life on Work That Won’t Matter in the End | John McCalla-Leacy
At a glance
WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Sudden loss reshapes priorities from relentless work to meaningful living
- A late-night call announcing his brother Roger’s death shocks John into realizing his urgent work deliverable is insignificant in the face of mortality.
- A cascade of sudden losses in 2016—his sister Pauline, his close colleague Mo, and his longtime friend Graham—deepens his sense that tomorrow isn’t guaranteed.
- These events drive a shift from hoarding money and overworking toward valuing experiences, wellbeing, and intentional time with family.
- John emphasizes living with humility, using personal progress to lift others, and finding meaning by reframing grief into empathy and growth.
- He makes concrete lifestyle changes—taking six months off, building his own house, and prioritizing physical and emotional health—to align daily life with his values.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasA single crisis can expose what your priorities truly are.
Hearing “Roger’s dead” while finishing a due diligence report creates an immediate contrast between urgent work and what actually matters, prompting a values reset.
Relentless work can quietly normalize unhealthy living until tragedy interrupts it.
John’s description of constant day-and-night diligence work and Mo’s sudden heart attack underscores how high-pressure environments can mask serious health risks.
Saving endlessly can become a form of postponing life.
He questions what he was “saving all this money for,” and chooses to enjoy life now—through home, comfort, and experiences—rather than deferring everything to an uncertain future.
Deliberate, tangible changes make values real.
Taking six months off work and physically building his house becomes a concrete act of reclaiming time, agency, and meaning—rather than just adopting a new mindset.
Wellbeing is multidimensional and must be actively protected.
He highlights emotional, physical, and mental health as ongoing priorities, tied to being present for family and modeling a healthier life for children.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesBut some people are so poor, all they have is money.
— David McIntosh Jr
My phone rang. I, I don't know. It's, it was, um, two, three o'clock in the morning. I, I, I don't get calls at two, three o'clock in the morning. And when, uh, when your phone rings, then you know something's not quite right.
— John McCalla-Leacy
He just said, uh, "Roger's dead." That was, that was the call.
— John McCalla-Leacy
And I'm looking at myself, and I'm on the floor cross-legged. I've got my laptop. I was working on a due diligence report that needed to be in and, and, uh, the next, uh, morning. And I thought, "What, what am I doing?" You know, this report was just not important at all, and my head just started spinning and, and, and that was a key moment.
— John McCalla-Leacy
Grief is the price we pay for love.
— David McIntosh Jr
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