This Is Why You Break Every New Year’s Resolution — And How To Finally Stop | Shadé Zahrai

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Released

January 7, 2026

Duration

1h 58m

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Dr Rangan Chatterjee

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

This episode is brought to you by: AG1: Get a FREE AG1 Green Steel Tumbler, 5 Travel Packs and Welcome Kit worth £80. Sign up for a subscription here: https://bit.ly/43FwxQl VIVOBAREFOOT: Get 15% off your first order https://links.drchatterjee.com/4nqvRI3 Most of us want our lives to feel calmer, clearer and more aligned. Yet so often, we hesitate, overthink or delay the changes we know would help us feel better. This week’s guest believes that what holds us back is not a lack of motivation or confidence, but a lack of self-trust, which is the foundation that shapes everything from our habits to our relationships. This week on, I’m joined by Dr Shadé Zahrai. Shadé is a behavioural researcher, award-winning peak performance educator and leading authority on confidence and self-doubt. In her new book, Big Trust: Rewire Self-Doubt, Find Your Confidence and Fuel Success, her message is simple: we need to stop getting in our own way, loosen the grip of self-doubt and learn how to back ourselves when it counts. Many of Shadé’s insights are shaped by her own journey. After years in corporate roles that were filled with intense self-doubt and even physical anxiety, she found herself starting again when the pandemic hit and her work fell away overnight. Creating simple videos from home to support others became an unexpected turning point - and ultimately the foundation of the work she does today. During our conversation, we discuss: ● Why self-trust sits at the heart of confidence, action and meaningful change, and how waiting to ‘feel ready’ keeps so many of us stuck. ● The four key attributes that make up self-trust, how our identity shapes our behaviour and why small daily choices become meaningful “proof points” of who we want to become. ● Why confidence doesn’t come first, and why self-trust, not motivation, is what allows us to take action. ● How repeatedly breaking promises to ourselves erodes our identity, and why keeping small commitments rebuilds a sense of capability and worth. ● The powerful connection between our inner narrative and our wellbeing, and how shifting our story changes the way we experience life. Shadé believes that we are not defined by our doubts but by the choices we make when doubt appears. This episode offers a compassionate, practical guide to strengthening the trust we place in ourselves and invites us to stop outsourcing our worth to external validation. Only then can we reconnect with our core values and begin living from a place of clarity and courage. #feelbetterlivemore Connect with Shadé: Website https://www.shadezahrai.com/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/shadezahrai/?hl=e Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@shadezahrai?lang=en YouTube https://www.youtube.com/shadezahrai Shadé’s book: Big Trust: Rewire Self-Doubt, Find Your Confidence and Fuel Success UK https://amzn.to/4bkuCHH US https://amzn.to/4947jk4 #feelbetterlivemore #feelbetterlivemorepodcast ------- Order MAKE CHANGE THAT LASTS. US & Canada version https://amzn.to/3RyO3SL, UK version https://amzn.to/3Kt5rUK ----- Follow Dr Chatterjee at: Website: https://drchatterjee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drchatterjee Twitter: https://twitter.com/drchatterjeeuk Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drchatterjee/ Newsletter: https://drchatterjee.com/subscription DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast and on this webpage is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Dr. Rangan Chatterjee

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  Medical doctor, author, and podcast host of "Feel Better, Live More."

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Dr Rangan Chatterjee, featuring Dr. Shadé Zahrai and Dr. Rangan Chatterjee, This Is Why You Break Every New Year’s Resolution — And How To Finally Stop | Shadé Zahrai explores self-trust, not confidence, is the real key to lasting change Self-doubt blocks progress because people wait for confidence, but confidence is typically the result of action, not the prerequisite for it.

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