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ADHD Chatter PodcastThe Man Who Drank A Litre Of Vodka Every Day: "How I Stopped Drinking!" - Sober Dave
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Sober Dave Recounts Forty Years of Drinking and Recovery
- Sober Dave says drinking began at 14 after his mother left and his dad met someone new, when alcohol numbed his emotions and gave him acceptance among a group of peers.
- His drinking moved from the pub to isolated drinking at home, then escalated to a litre of vodka a night, which he chose partly because he googled which alcohol had the fewest calories.
- He describes many rock-bottom moments, including four days of drinking and sleeping rough in Eastbourne and a night when he searched for paracetamol to take his life, yet he kept drinking until he was ready.
- A friend's invitation to take a three-month break on 7 January 2019 planted a seed, and he stopped that day, later building a sober community, podcast, book and coaching work and finding contentment and better health.
- Towards the end, he discusses a possible link between ADHD and heavy drinking, citing impulsivity, overthinking, low dopamine and poor focus, though he has not yet been formally tested.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasAlcohol was an emotional coping tool from the start
Sober Dave says that after his parents split at 13, drinking at 14 numbed his emotions and made him feel confident and accepted, which he calls a love affair from the off.
Drinking escalates quietly when it moves indoors
He describes going from social pub drinking to drinking at home after someone voiced concern, then to isolation and a litre of vodka a night while still running a business.
Rock bottom did not automatically lead to stopping
He says he had perhaps 10 to 20 rock bottoms that would have made most people stop, but he was not in the right headspace until later.
A gentle, non-confrontational invitation worked
His friend Piers asked him to join a three-month break to see where he'd be, rather than telling him he looked a mess, and visualizing that future version of himself led him to commit.
Recovery needs more than removing alcohol
He says you must fill the void with hobbies, exercise, community, therapy and other sources of dopamine, and that overthinking can even ramp up after stopping.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesif you walked in and you heard the worst song in the world really loud on the radio, that was my head by the time I got in. And I used to pour a massive vodka with a tiny bit of tonic, neck it in one, and it's like turning that radio down to zero so the noise had gone.
— Sober Dave
my drinking become, as you say, my prison. It, I was in, in my own prison. And that day on the 7th of January 2019, I found the key, and I unlocked it, and I walked out, and I ain't gone back since.
— Sober Dave
it's not about how much you drink, it's about how it makes you feel, and that's really important to know that.
— Sober Dave
It's like poison ivy. It wraps itself around your toe, and then it goes up your shins, up your thighs, and then it's round. Before you know it, it's round your neck, and you feel completely suffocated.
— Sober Dave
it's the only drug you have to justify not having as well. You know, if you give up smoking or caffeine, everyone's rubbing your shoulders. And you say, "Oh, I'm gonna stop drinking," then you're called boring, you know?
— Sober Dave
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SPEAKERS
Alex Partridge
hostHost of the podcast ADHD Chatter.
Sober Dave
guestRecovery coach and sobriety advocate known as “Sober Dave,” sharing his experience overcoming severe alcohol addiction.
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