How Can I Get My Kid to Stop Doing an Annoying Behavior?

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

May 6, 2022

Duration

30m

Channel

Good Inside with Dr. Becky

Watch on YouTube

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

If your kid recently started to spit—or do something else that you just want them to stop doing—it’s easy to get into a power struggle. Annoying behaviors often become a way for kids to assert their individuality and express big feelings. In this episode, Dr. Becky talks to three parents dealing with spitting and what feels like defiance. She offers actionable strategies for responding to these undesirable behaviors in ways that are effective because they speak to the motivation under the behavior. You don’t want to miss this one; the strategies Dr Becky models are easily generalizable beyond spitting—from potty language to screaming to any “Just stop it!” behaviors. Join Good Inside Membership: http://www.goodinside.com Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside Sign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletter Want More? Check these out: Parenting Is Exhausting - https://youtu.be/uH8-xQs7uH0 Deep Dive: How Do We Survive Pandemic Parenting With Two Toddlers and Two High-Stress Jobs? - https://youtu.be/eK1Vu6xWEH8 Why Won't My Kids Listen To Anything I Say? - https://youtu.be/Rb7FSL1y3Oo Deeply Feeling Kids Need a Different Approach - https://youtu.be/WQNM5EyDtKE Motherhood Doesn’t Have to Be Martyrdom - https://youtu.be/ywJMtRHzqFY

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Dr. Becky

  host

  Clinical psychologist and parenting expert; host of Good Inside.

• Three parents (unnamed)

  guest

  Parent caller seeking advice about a child’s annoying spitting behavior.

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky and Three parents (unnamed), How Can I Get My Kid to Stop Doing an Annoying Behavior? explores Reframing kids’ annoying behaviors: join, boundary, and practice regulation skills Dr. Becky reframes spitting and similar annoying behaviors as often serving an “identity” function: kids feel independent when they provoke a strong parental reaction.

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