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I Needed Proof I Was a Good Mom

You love your baby more than anything. So why does it sometimes feel like your baby… doesn’t like you? In this episode, Dr. Becky talks with therapist, author, and mom of two Erin Schlozman about the moment early motherhood cracked open everything she thought she knew about competence, control, and what it means to be “good” at something. Erin came into motherhood as someone who always hit the milestones: good grades, grad school, career, marriage. Then came a one-month milestone photo with her newborn son — and instead of the sweet picture she imagined, both she and her baby ended up crying on the nursery floor. Together, Dr. Becky and Erin unpack the disorientation of new parenthood: the feeling that your baby’s crying is somehow a reflection of you, the pressure to “get it right,” and the clarifying realization that motherhood doesn’t follow a linear path. Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible: - [Once Upon a Farm:](https://onceuponafarmorganics.com/) Use the code GOODINSIDE for 40% off your first subscription - [Coterie](https://www.coterie.com/): Get 20% off with the code GOODINSIDEBABY20 - [Airbnb](https://click.pscrb.fm/2f): Host your home or book your next stay on Airbnb

Dr. Becky KennedyhostErin Schlozmanguest
May 28, 202628mWatch on YouTube ↗

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EPISODE INFO

Released
May 28, 2026
Duration
28m
Channel
Good Inside with Dr. Becky
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EPISODE DESCRIPTION

You love your baby more than anything. So why does it sometimes feel like your baby… doesn’t like you? In this episode, Dr. Becky talks with therapist, author, and mom of two Erin Schlozman about the moment early motherhood cracked open everything she thought she knew about competence, control, and what it means to be “good” at something. Erin came into motherhood as someone who always hit the milestones: good grades, grad school, career, marriage. Then came a one-month milestone photo with her newborn son — and instead of the sweet picture she imagined, both she and her baby ended up crying on the nursery floor. Together, Dr. Becky and Erin unpack the disorientation of new parenthood: the feeling that your baby’s crying is somehow a reflection of you, the pressure to “get it right,” and the clarifying realization that motherhood doesn’t follow a linear path. Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible:

SPEAKERS

  • Dr. Becky Kennedy

    host

    Clinical psychologist and parenting expert, host of Good Inside with Dr. Becky.

  • Erin Schlozman

    guest

    Therapist and author focused on maternal mental health and perfectionism in motherhood.

EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky Kennedy and Erin Schlozman, I Needed Proof I Was a Good Mom explores when baby’s tears feel like judgment: seeking proof you’re enough Erin describes entering motherhood with a high-achiever mindset—expecting competence, predictability, and quick mastery—then colliding with the uncertainty and “friction” of caring for a newborn.

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