I Needed Proof I Was a Good Mom

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

May 28, 2026

Duration

28m

Channel

Good Inside with Dr. Becky

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

You love your baby more than anything. So why does it sometimes feel like your baby… doesn’t like you? In this episode, Dr. Becky talks with therapist, author, and mom of two Erin Schlozman about the moment early motherhood cracked open everything she thought she knew about competence, control, and what it means to be “good” at something. Erin came into motherhood as someone who always hit the milestones: good grades, grad school, career, marriage. Then came a one-month milestone photo with her newborn son — and instead of the sweet picture she imagined, both she and her baby ended up crying on the nursery floor. Together, Dr. Becky and Erin unpack the disorientation of new parenthood: the feeling that your baby’s crying is somehow a reflection of you, the pressure to “get it right,” and the clarifying realization that motherhood doesn’t follow a linear path. Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible:

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🎤 SPEAKERS

• Dr. Becky Kennedy

  host

  Clinical psychologist and parenting expert, host of Good Inside with Dr. Becky.

• Erin Schlozman

  guest

  Therapist and author focused on maternal mental health and perfectionism in motherhood.

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Good Inside with Dr. Becky, featuring Dr. Becky Kennedy and Erin Schlozman, I Needed Proof I Was a Good Mom explores when baby’s tears feel like judgment: seeking proof you’re enough Erin describes entering motherhood with a high-achiever mindset—expecting competence, predictability, and quick mastery—then colliding with the uncertainty and “friction” of caring for a newborn.

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