The 3 SIGNS You're Dealing With A Narcissist & How To SET BOUNDARIES! | Dr. Ramani & Jay Shetty

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

December 12, 2022

Duration

1h 13m

Channel

Jay Shetty Podcast

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Today, I am talking to Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a licensed clinical psychologist in Los Angeles, CA, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University, Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. She is an author of several books including Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving A Relationship with a Narcissist, and “Don’t You Know Who I Am?”: How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility. The focus of Dr. Durvasula’s clinical, academic and consultative work is the etiology and impact of narcissism and high-conflict, entitled, antagonistic personality styles on human relationships, mental health, and societal expectations. Dr. Ramani shares her studies about narcissism and our narcissistic tendencies. She and I talk about how our personalities define how we act with people and around people, why narcissists are resistant to change and to how deal with one, the truth about gaslighting and why it is so unhealthy to the person at the receiving end, and why we shouldn't misplace our hopes in others and instead place it on ourselves. What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Intro 00:03:11 When did narcissism become a study of focus? 00:07:06 Narcissism is a very quiet condition 00:12:45 Awareness and discomfort 00:19:37 How do people end up with a narcissistic personality? 00:26:25 Narcissists can be very attractive 00:33:26 The concept of multiple truths 00:36:40 Love bombing 00:41:08 The real meaning of gaslighting 00:47:05 Dealing with a gaslighter 00:53:35 “I can change this person.” 01:00:07 Ultimate healing from a narcissistic relationship 01:04:31 Setting healthy boundaries 01:06:49 Adopting narcissistic patterns to be able to fight back 01:09:20 Misplaced hope

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Dr. Ramani Durvasula

  guest

  Clinical psychologist and therapist known for expertise on narcissism, gaslighting, and relationship boundary-setting.

• Jay Shetty

  host

  Host of the podcast 'On Purpose' and author who interviews guests on wellbeing, mindset, and relationships.

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Jay Shetty Podcast, featuring Dr. Ramani Durvasula and Jay Shetty, The 3 SIGNS You're Dealing With A Narcissist & How To SET BOUNDARIES! | Dr. Ramani & Jay Shetty explores Dr. Ramani explains narcissism, gaslighting, love bombing, and how to protect yourself Dr. Ramani distinguishes narcissism as a rigid, antagonistic personality style from narcissistic personality disorder, a diagnosis requiring a licensed practitioner, and warns against using the term for a single bad act or a bad week.

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