How to Get From Here to There: A Framework for Creating the Life You Want | The Mel Robbins Podcast

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Released

June 1, 2023

Duration

53m

Channel

The Mel Robbins Podcast

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

Order your copy of The Let Them Theory 👉 https://melrob.co/let-them-theory 👈 The #1 Best Selling Book of 2025 🔥 Discover how much power you truly have. It all begins with two simple words. Let Them. — In this episode, you’ll learn the process for identifying your own North Star, why this is important at the beginning of creating your new life, and how to use your North Star to guide you in the process of designing your life. Next, you’ll dive deep into the 3-part framework: Emulate, Assimilate, and Innovate. This framework is the backbone of the University of Southern California’s world-renowned Popular Music major taught at their Thornton School of Music. It’s the creative process #artists use to create songs, movies, and video games. The framework has helped launch Grammy-winning artists and touring #musicians for the past decade. Today, you’re invited to tap into the artist within and learn how to find your North Star and use the #creative process to bring your #vision for your future to life. Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 03:37 What is a north star and how do you find yours? 09:12 Kendall unpacks the 3 pillars for creating change 10:00 Emulation: identifying YOUR north star 10:42 Assimilation: 10,000 hour rule really works 18:30 Innovation: create something of your own 24:48 Why you should say “want” and not “need” 28:47 The first step you need to take if you are feeling lost 36:11 The process that we have used to develop and advance throughout life 39:11 This is the most beautiful part of change 40:58 The difference between a directional signal and a destination 46:11 Kendall’s full-circle moment gave me chills 50:17 You are like a statue, here is how — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Mel Robbins

  host

• Amy (Mel’s friend/co-host for this episode)

  guest

• Kendall Robbins

  guest

• Narrator

  other

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast, featuring Mel Robbins and Amy (Mel’s friend/co-host for this episode), How to Get From Here to There: A Framework for Creating the Life You Want | The Mel Robbins Podcast explores turn Inspiration Into Action: Mel Robbins’ Three-Step North Star Framework Mel Robbins explores how to deliberately design your life using a simple sentence—"I can do it"—and a three-part creative framework built around a personal North Star. She breaks down "I" (responsibility), "can" (belief), "do" (action), and "it" (your clear goal), arguing most people get stuck by missing one of these. With her daughter Kendall and producer Amy, she introduces the emulation–assimilation–innovation process: study someone you admire, practice their traits and skills, then transform them into your own unique expression. The conversation reframes growth not as closing a painful gap, but as ongoing creative expansion where you yourself are ultimately the artwork.

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