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Registration for Launch 2023 is now CLOSED 🌟 https://bit.ly/launch2024 👈 Get on the waitlist for the 2024 Launch with Mel Robbins! 🚀 — In today’s episode, you’re learning about making hard decisions and moving on from hard #relationships. How do you move forward when… You feel so torn about what to do. You don’t trust yourself. You’re scared to make the wrong decision. What’s best for you will impact the people you #love. How do you decide your next big move when everything you worked for evaporates before your eyes? How do you stop thinking about your ex, especially when you might bump into them at any moment? I’ll tell you how. By the end of this episode, you’ll not only have the answer to whatever question YOU are grappling with, but you'll also have so many decision-making tools in your back pocket that you’re going to need more pockets. And if you’re looking to ditch your insecurities for a powerful way to launch forward on your dreams, I’ve got just the thing for you. Sign up for my FREE Take Control mini course to help you create a better life. https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol Xo Mel In this episode, you'll learn: 00:00 Intro 03:23 Ever been dumped? Then you’ll relate with what Katrina is going through. 05:18 The kind of decisions that change your life don’t happen in your brain. 09:53 Holding yourself back because you feel guilty? Listen to this. 12:50 The single biggest quality you want in any partner? It’s always this. 17:57 You deserve nothing less than these qualities from your partner. 20:48 Try role playing with a friend to help you get the closure you crave. 25:51 Use this strategy to help you make a weighty decision. 31:14 Takeaway #1: Stop running away. Think of it this way instead. 32:33 Takeaway #2: If you want closure, you have to do these two things. 33:39 Takeaway #3: If you’re going to hold yourself back, own it. Don’t blame others. 34:27 Takeaway #4: You’re making it much harder in your head. 36:20 Takeaway #5: As soon as somebody doesn’t want you, they’re not your person. 33:30 Takeaway #6: Please stop doing this after a breakup. 37:56 Takeaway #7: If it’s not love, it’s a lesson. 38:48 Takeaway #8: Don’t be caught off guard by preparing ahead of time. 40:03 Takeaway #9: You don’t need someone else to feel complete. 41:22 Takeaway #10: Don’t let your fears hold you back. — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT

Mel Robbins Coaches Heartbroken Listener To Choose Growth Over Regret

Mel Robbins coaches Katrina, a newly graduated lawyer navigating a painful breakup and a major life decision: whether to leave her home state and start over. The conversation centers on distinguishing the *right* decision from the fear of making it, and separating how you feel about someone from how they actually make you feel. Mel helps Katrina reframe her breakup, reclaim her self-worth, and design a confident “plan B” for inevitably bumping into her ex. The episode concludes with ten distilled life takeaways about closure, intuition, regret, and courageously moving toward a bigger life.

IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING

5 ideas

Make decisions by moving toward something powerful, not just away from pain.

You feel more empowered and in control when you frame big changes as running toward growth and possibility instead of merely escaping discomfort or a person who hurt you.

Closure requires letting go of the ‘door handle’—including hidden hopes.

As long as you secretly hold on to the possibility of getting someone back or rewriting the past, you haven’t fully closed that chapter or freed yourself to build a new one.

Stop blaming others for the small life you choose to live.

If you hold yourself back because of guilt about parents, friends, or partners, you must own that as *your* decision instead of using them as an excuse; have the honest conversation and ask for their support.

If someone doesn’t want you, you should not want them.

Clinging to people who reject you is often an attempt to repair old wounds or prove your worth; instead, take their behavior as data, assert that you deserve better, and redirect your energy to yourself.

Your intuition saw the signs—owning that strengthens, not weakens, you.

Looking back critically at the red flags you ignored (cheating, emotional distance, disrespect) validates your intuition and helps you trust and act on it faster in the future.

WORDS WORTH SAVING

5 quotes

How you feel about someone is very different than how they make you feel.

— Mel Robbins

If someone doesn’t want you anymore, you shouldn’t want them.

— Mel Robbins

When it’s not love, it’s a lesson.

— Mel Robbins

Living with regret is the worst thing in the world.

— Mel Robbins

You must know the difference between what the right decision is in your heart versus your fear of making that decision.

— Mel Robbins

Deciding to move on after a breakup and life transitionDifference between the right decision and fear of that decisionSeparating feelings for someone from how they make you feelLetting go, creating closure, and reclaiming self-worthReframing past relationships as lessons, not failuresUsing body-based intuition (expansion vs. contraction) to decidePlanning difficult encounters (AB planning) and confronting regret

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