Esther Perel on the relationship baggage we bring to work | ReThinking

ℹ️ EPISODE INFO

Released

March 3, 2026

Duration

36m

Channel

Re:Thinking with Adam Grant

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📝 EPISODE DESCRIPTION

@estherperel is a psychotherapist known for her innovative approach to relationships. In this episode, Adam and Esther discuss the relational baggage we all carry through our lives and into our work, and how our differing personalities and relationship styles can affect collaboration and culture. They break down the differences between relationship- and task-oriented personalities, and consider the fine balance between risk-taking and rule-following that makes for a healthy relationship with ourselves and others. Host & Guest Adam Grant (Instagram: @adamgrant | LinkedIn: @adammgrant | Website: https://adamgrant.net/) Esther Perel (Instagram: @estherperelofficial | Substack: Entre Nous with Esther Perel | Website: https://www.estherperel.com/) Join us in person at a TED conference: https://tedtalks.social/events Become a TED Member to support our mission: https://ted.com/membership Subscribe to a TED newsletter: https://ted.com/newsletters Follow TED! X: https://www.twitter.com/TEDTalks Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ted Facebook: https://facebook.com/TED LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/ted-conferences TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tedtoks Podcasts: https://www.ted.com/podcasts The TED Audio Collective is a collection of podcasts for the curious. The TED Audio Collective videos may be used for non-commercial purposes under a Creative Commons License, Attribution–Non Commercial–No Derivatives (or the CC BY – NC – ND 4.0 International) and in accordance with our TED Talks Usage Policy (https://www.ted.com/about/our-organiz...). For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), please submit a Media Request at https://media-requests.ted.com.

🎤 SPEAKERS

• Esther Perel

  guest

  Psychotherapist and relationship expert focused on relational dynamics in intimate life and at work.

• Adam Grant

  host

  Organizational psychologist and professor who hosts Re:Thinking.

🧾 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode of Re:Thinking with Adam Grant, featuring Esther Perel and Adam Grant, Esther Perel on the relationship baggage we bring to work | ReThinking explores Esther Perel reveals how personal histories shape workplace relationships and culture Perel introduces the “unofficial resume,” emphasizing that relationship history and early socialization patterns strongly influence how people interpret authority, collaborate, and respond to conflict at work.

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