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Jay Shetty PodcastBREAK The Cycle Of Self Sabotage & STOP Your Shame Spiral | La La Anthony
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
La La Anthony on Messy Healing, Self-Blame, Rejection, and Reform
- La La Anthony says healing is messy with no time limit, and that success and fame do not shield anyone from pain or feelings like "why me."
- She and Jay Shetty discuss taking accountability without self-blame, and how her fear-driven overwork left her burnt out and guilty about vacations.
- They cover handling rejection, people-pleasing, and online criticism, including celebrating the people who show up and taking feedback while leaving the venom.
- La La describes co-parenting her 16-year-old son after her divorce, her view of him as her best friend, and adjusting to a new normal.
- She explains her prison reform charity, ThreeSixty, saying love and a changed environment drive transformation, and shares the story of Rondo.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasHealing has no timeline
La La says things can still trigger you years later, and she has learned to be kind to herself rather than asking why she isn't over it yet.
Accountability is different from self-blame
A friend told her the divorce wasn't her fault, but she still asked where she could have been better. Jay noted that people tend to think it's either full blame or none, when the truth is more balanced.
Fear drove her overwork
She prided herself on outworking everyone, until she was burnt out with nothing to give. She now sees that if someone can take something from you, it was never yours.
Rejection is often not about you
Now that she produces, La La sees factors like height or chemistry with a costar that are outside an actor's control. Being gracious toward the person who got the role led to more good things for her.
Celebrate who showed up, not who didn't
Quoting her mom, La La says to focus on the guests who came rather than the one who didn't. Jay added that he now lets positive comments sink in instead of scrolling past them to find the negative one.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesI used to take so much pride in being like, you know, even if I'm not the most talented, I'm the hardest worker. No one can outwork me. And that was, like, my badge of honor. Until you're burnt out and you don't have anything else to give. And then what? They move on to the next person anyway.
— La La Anthony
I'm not saying don't take accountability for whatever you might have had to do with the situation. Like, it's important to sit back and say, "Okay, where could I have been better?" But that's different than blaming yourself for what happened.
— La La Anthony
Celebrate the people who are there for your moments, who wanna be there with you, and stop worrying about the person who wasn't there.
— La La Anthony
I wish all of us would allow ourselves to receive love as seriously as we receive hate.
— Jay Shetty
I think that people would be surprised how simply changing a person's environment and simply loving someone can be all you need to actually see a complete change in a person.
— La La Anthony
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SPEAKERS
La La Anthony
guestTV personality, actress, and entrepreneur known for her public work and advocacy, including criminal justice reform initiatives.
Jay Shetty
hostPodcast host and author who leads the interview on On Purpose with Jay Shetty.
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