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Jay Shetty PodcastReneé Rapp OPENS Up On Traumatic Past: "I Was Missing For Seven Hours"
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WHAT IT’S REALLY ABOUT
Reneé Rapp on Anxiety, Resilience, Drugging, and Self-Worth
- Reneé Rapp describes growing anxiety about how people perceive her as her visibility rises, including bracing for the worst before news arrives so she won't be disappointed.
- She says a harsh inner critic and a 'could have done better' mindset, reinforced by praise from adults in childhood, keep her from celebrating wins like her top 10 debut album.
- She recounts waking alone in a hotel bathroom stall after being drugged and missing for seven hours, how she cut ties with that friend group, and how it became the song 'Snow Angel'.
- She explains that she feels worthy mainly when the people around her are happy and proud of her, and she knows she needs to build more of that internally.
- She shares how she handles gray areas such as her eating disorder and her sexuality, and ends with Fast Five answers on integrity, big emotions and a less hateful world.
IDEAS WORTH REMEMBERING
5 ideasHigher visibility has made her more anxious, not less
Rapp says each new level of success knocks her because she is now much more aware of how she is perceived, even though her underlying anxieties are the same as when she started.
Pre-emptively expecting the worst is her coping strategy, with unclear results
She decides things are bad before they happen so she won't be disappointed, but admits she doesn't know whether that is better than simply hoping for the best.
A 'what could you have done better?' mindset can crowd out celebration
Rapp says her parents' first comment after competitions was what she could have done better, and Jay Shetty suggests asking what you did great first, then what could improve, to balance the two.
Resilience can come from how you speak to yourself
Rapp says her resilience comes both from what she has gone through and from pushing on despite a brutal inner monologue, and she traces it to posting singing videos in high school despite mean tweets.
Wanting escape led her into an unsafe group
After a breakup, she wanted friends who knew nothing about her life and who only cared about partying, and says she 'escaped too far'; she now says she should have walked away after the first couple of warning signs.
WORDS WORTH SAVING
5 quotesI just am so afraid to celebrate myself and then be, like, slapped in the face.
— Reneé Rapp
I love writing songs. Writing songs is my greatest weapon in this life.
— Reneé Rapp
I value, like, being very true to how you feel, whether that's a good feeling or not.
— Reneé Rapp
Now I care more 'cause I care about not caring.
— Reneé Rapp
I wanted that, like, level of just, like, escape and not dealing with it, and then I just escaped too far.
— Reneé Rapp
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SPEAKERS
Reneé Rapp
guestSinger-songwriter and actress, featured guest discussing her life, music, and personal experiences.
Jay Shetty
hostPodcast host and interviewer of On Purpose with Jay Shetty.
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